Having your life — how you act, live, think — “defined” by a few spoken words, can be daunting to say the least. Let’s talk about the impact of a mental health diagnosis…and also how you are still YOU, despite it!

Let’s begin with my personal story…*ahem*. It took me a long time to receive a proper diagnosis, which isn’t uncommon. I even received some misdiagnosis along the way (that’s a whole other story). As someone with higher functioning anxiety and depression it took a lot of advocating to be tested and diagnosed. And…surprise! I test in the “severe” level for both anxiety and depression. 

Having the words “you have ___” uttered to you from a doctor can be relieving, frustrating, earth shattering and confusing…all at once. My mind automatically went racing, questioning every aspect of how I’ve lived my life prior to those words spoken. “Who even am I?”, “Is it obvious to others?”, “What’s next?” and “How can I live with this?” immediately crossed my mind.

Here’s the beautiful thing — all these questions can absolutely wait.

Sit with your diagnosis. Spend some time with what is familiar (for me — a good book, time with friends, sessions with my therapist). You are YOU — with or without this diagnosis. Remember, a diagnosis is a stepping stool to better understand yourself. It is meant to help, not hurt. I like to think of it as a pair of prescription glasses: a tool to better view myself and the world around me.

Allow yourself some space and time to process the weight of it all…and also space to continue being you! There’s no rush to “act” on your diagnosis. Those words do not change who you are. For me it eliminated a barrier of mystery and confusion, but once revealed it added its own barrier of doubts and fears….and that is OKAY!

I think the point of this blog is to say — it’s a huge deal. All your feelings are valid and should be felt (alongside a therapist if possible). Breathe, process, breathe some more. I’m proud of you for advocating for yourself, seeking the help you need, and taking care of yourself. 

Rachel Parrett

Rachel is the founder of Mend Lip Balm and lives in Philly. As a mental health advocate, she finds a lot of joy in educating those around her about resources available to them. You can often find her on TikTok live, reading a good book or spending time with friends.